My baby, how are you?!
I’m good… I really like my morning… I’m getting into a better routine with Mum… we’re co-existing peacefully… (lol — fingers crossed it stays this way!)
It’s a good morning?
Yes! (Big sigh of relief) — Maybe I’m also less agitated because my assignments are handed in?
You can relax now until next term?
I can relax until I get my marks back, and if there’s anything I need to fix up in the assignment then I have to go back and do that.
It doesn’t sound like uni…
It’s not exactly the same. TAFE only has pass or fail. So if there’s a section of the assignment that’s not a “pass” in the marking criteria, they pull you up on that and you have a 2nd attempt to submit it. If you don’t pass the 2nd attempt, you fail.
Ooh…
Yeah! So the 2nd attempt is just as nerve wracking!!! If you don’t pass the first attempt…
I see. Fingers crossed you passed your first attempts…
Yes… sigh…
Why sigh?
I’ve been thinking about 2026…
What about it?
What am I gonna do?
We’re going TRAVELLING! You don’t need to do ANYTHING. You actually need to PLAN OUR WEDDING. For 2027. That’s what you have to do in 2026!!!
(Giggles)… Now in a parallel Universe — one where you don’t show up — then, perhaps I have to plan my own stuff for me… as a single woman…
What hypothetical scenario is that.
Well… what if I stay at my job? What if I go full time in 2026 when a position becomes available? What if I say I do want to be a manager?
Woah. For 2026?!?!?!?!?!
After… we come back from our travels…? 2nd half of 2026?
Why would you want to do that?
Because… I feel like the tech industry is moving extremely fast. I’m grateful that I’m doing this certificate — and I might still be a freelance writer — but I don’t know if I’ll be a full time worker in the industry.
Right now everyone is talking as if I will finish this certificate and be a $100,000 a year salary cyber security expert — it’s not that easy.
There’s still a lot of missing gaps and lack of real work experience on my resume for this industry.
I am okay in retail… all of a sudden. Maybe on this peaceful Sunday morning. I’m like, “Oh, my workplace is not so bad…” Maybe because I’m listening to chill lofi right now… I just feel more positive and optimistic…
Maybe I can handle it?
You can definitely handle it. I just don’t understand why you don’t put your hand up NOW when there are already opportunities for promotion?
Because I’m only on a short break from classes — I’ll be back to stressing and sleepless nights in July. Or maybe even next week if I have to re-do the assignments, 2nd attempt.
This is just a temporary reprieve…
I see… well… I’ll support you — financially and emotionally — whatever you wanna do.
I don’t know why I have this lofty idea of myself being a tech industry freelance writer.
Because that’s exactly what you are able to do.
Yeah but I haven’t applied myself. I haven’t built up a portfolio. I haven’t even bothered setting up a profile on a freelance writing website.
Do you even need to bid for gigs like that? Just go write on CyberTechNiQii’s blog! You set up the link, you have nothing on the pages right now.
Oh yeah, I almost forgot about that…
Just self-publish. I’ll support you. 1000%!!! Build up a YouTube channel. Build up your Tik Tok, reels, whatever you wanna do. Keep working retail if you want to feel like you’re still a normal person in society. But all this other content — I can support you with it all behind the scenes.
Do I really want that…?!
I’M YOUR HUSBAND. THAT’S WHAT I’M HERE FOR.
(Chuckles)…
Yes, you’re an independent girl boss that can do anything — BUT I’M ALSO HERE. ACCEPT MY HELP. PLEASE. I WANT TO HELP YOU SUCCEED!
(Giggles)…
Are you going to be FIFO a lot in 2026?!
What is FIFO?
Fly-In-Fly-Out
(Sigh)… yes… probably…
OH well… (shrugs shoulders)…
What oh well?
I have a FIFO husband…
(Giggles)… yes… you do…
I’m a FIFO wife…
(LOLOLOLOL) — I don’t really know the cultural context of what that means, but yes.
(Chuckles)… lemme see if AI can explain the cultural context here…
In Australia, having a FIFO (Fly-In Fly-Out) husband is a common reality for families, especially in industries like mining, oil and gas, and remote healthcare. This work arrangement means that the husband spends extended periods away at a work site before returning home for a set time. While FIFO jobs can offer financial stability, they also come with unique challenges for relationships and family life.
Cultural Context:
- Economic Opportunity vs. Family Sacrifice — Many families choose FIFO work for the higher wages and career opportunities, but it often means long separations and missing key family moments.
- Resilience & Independence — Parts of FIFO workers often develop strong independence, managing household responsibilities solo while their spouse is away.
- Social Stereotypes — FIFO families sometimes face misconceptions, such as assumptions that their marriages are strained or that FIFO wives live lavish lifestyles.
- Parenting & Emotional Impact — Children of FIFO parents may experience adjustment challenges, but many families find ways to maintain strong bonds through communication and quality time.
- Community support — FIFO families often connect with others in similar situations, forming support networks to help navigate the lifestyle.
While FIFO life isn’t for everyone, many couples make it work by prioritizing communication, trust, and shared goals.
(Microsoft CoPilot)
LOL………………. okay… yeah, we’re a FIFO family.
(Giggles)….
Was there any links to that?
Ummm… psychology websites… mother’s forums? Support groups? Australian government something something…
There’s support groups for those wives?
Yeah — I guess it really is a thing. Should I go join them?
(Chuckles) — Well, if you feel that you need to… eventually…
How many more years are you predicting?
(Sigh) — The bros… are determined…
For what?
A very long career.
And their wives?! How do they feel?!
It’s a different cultural context too. There is a sense of “This is just what it is, we’re making money” — it’s the Asian grind.
True…
You don’t want me to go through Asian grind?
(Huge, deep breaths) — It’s not that I don’t want you to. But yes, perhaps I sit somewhere in between Aussie FIFO wives and Asian wives who are simply accepting of the Asian grind… I don’t even know if it’s called that…
Everyone will know what we’re talking about, it’s alright.
(Chuckles, sigh…)
I worked with a girl once who had a FIFO partner…
And?
She was very ANNOYING.
We’re working in retail and she starts going on about her partner buying her all these expensive things — and other people are like, “Do you even NEED to work!?” But she would say, “Oh no I’m not relying on him 100% — I still have to make my own money!” It was part of this feeling of like — she had the CHOICE — she could’ve just stayed home and did nothing. Maybe pop out some babies. But she wanted her independence as well. She didn’t want to be reliant on him 100% for all their money and material things.
I feel like we’ve repeatedly had these conversations before in different times and places and contexts, babe… I know what you’re trying to say…
Okay… well… maybe work will be less stressful if I know that I have a husband who can support me if anything ever happened in that work place. Maybe it is a different psychological feeling?
(Nodding, accepting)…
How many other tours are y’all planning?
I’m not planning anything. I just go along with whatever they’ve decided after the meetings.
Why are you not present in the meetings?
I am. Physically there. Mentally I’m scrolling my phone reading your blog! (Giggles)… I’m not listening!!! I just want for the final decisions and summaries.
(Sigh) Babe…
I’ll go along with whatever they wanna do. I still gotta MAKE MONEY, babe.
I knowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww………………. (ughhhh!!! So reluctant about this)……………….
Maybe you should join the FIFO wives support forums…
(Chuckles)… when we’re LEGALLY MARRIED, I will.
(Giggles) — That actually does make me feel better.
It does?!
Yes. I care about your mental health too. I sometimes look around at this “circus” and I feel guilty. I feel really guilty about “marrying you into this” — you can’t even imagine some of the shit we go through… and when you’re really my wife, I’m still filtering a lot of it. I wouldn’t ever fully share with you… all the shit that’s here…
(Sigh) — So glamorous on stage and red carpets…
(Chuckles) — It’s all an illusion.
(LOLOLOLOL)………………………. yeah…………………… ❤
… So…
Are you going to be a manager at your work in 2026?
On second thought, no… probably just full-timer when the opportunity arises?
You think it’ll pop up?!
It will eventually pop up… it always does…
Or I’ll say yes to extra shifts when people are sick, etc. I don’t mind being a part-timer right now. If I didn’t have classes, my life would be VERY CHILL AND EASY. It’s just the actual income is not ideal. I’m okay for now, but long-term, my parents are still worried for me!
(Chuckles)… Little do they know… the son-in-law they are about to get!!! (Giggles!!!)
(LOLOLOLOL)… yes… they will feel so PROUD when they can boast about their successful son-in-law!
And that takes the pressure off me… then nobody will care about whatever I am doing. “Okay sure she wants to do that, whatever, her husband is RICH! She can do whatever she wants!”
(Hahahahahahaha…)
Mmmm… Maybe I wouldn’t mind going full-time in my job in 2026 — after our travels — and then, in 2027, we have to focus on our wedding. And then — after wedding and honeymoon — then maybe I can be a manager? I don’t know.
I just don’t move as fast as people expect. Sure someone in my exact position could’ve put their hand up for full-time, for management, even 2IC or whatever other responsibilities — I just… don’t move that quickly…
But then you’ll enrol in a cybersecurity course on a whim and everyone is like, “Why the FUCK did she do that?!”
(Chuckles)… yeah… okay fine, there’s no logic to my madness. But this is what I’m emotionally preparing for in 2026…
(Giggles) — PREPARE YOUR SUITCASE. WE’RE GOING TRAVELLING!!!
^___^ ❤ ❤ ❤
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