Virgo Sun Pisces Moon

Babe, I can finally breathe again…

What happened?

Mum went out of the house — she’s running her own errands. I have the house all to myself. It is ACTUALLY PEACEFUL.

Oh… what about when you wrote that poem?

She was getting ready to go out… It was weird with her still in the house but I wrote it anyway.

I see… how are you feeling now?

Like a WEIGHT has been LIFTED.

I can BREATHE. I can BE MYSELF.

I’M ALLOWED TO EXIST.

You don’t feel like you’re allowed to exist when your mother is around?!

(Sigh)… she nags… incessantly…

I see…

What’s your mother like?

She’s not going to bother you.

Are you sure?

Yes, my love. Don’t worry about my side of the family.

Oh great. So now all our obstacles are MY side?!

LOL no… I don’t think your side is an obstacle either…

What’s really worrying you about your Mum?

I’m not “worried” — I’m just anticipating — she’s going to be this “agitating voice” in the background…

That’s okay. I have thought about this A LOT — especially with her influence over you from early 2000’s.

(Sigh)… it’s not like that now.

I can see that. I can feel it.

You’re very different.

Yeah…

I don’t think we need to live with her…?

Didn’t you say that you wanted to?!

We will organise separate accommodation for her. Close by, but separated.

Thank GOD………………….. (huge sigh of relief)…………….

If we are in our apartment and she wants to live in the same building, that’s fine. She can have her own apartment.

If we are in the big house and she wants a granny flat on the same property, that’s fine. We can organise that for her.

OMG I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. I LOVE THAT YOU HAVE SO MUCH MONEY THAT NONE OF THIS IS AN ACTUAL ISSUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! ^0^!!!!!

YESSSSS… NOW I AM FEELING THAT THESE PROJECTS ARE WORTH IT!!!

I WILL STRUT MY STUFF DOWN THAT RUNWAY TOMORROW BECAUSE WE ARE GOING TO PAY FOR YOUR MOTHER TO HAVE HER OWN GRANNY FLAT!!!!

LOL…………… (Chuckles, giggles, gigles)……………….

I respect your mother. But if she is a SOURCE of STRESS for MY WIFE — I gotta find a way to solve this conundrum. If the solution is close enough but separate accommodation, let’s do that.

Honestly, I think SHE would be happier. I think SHE enjoys living ALONE. If it’s not for her “fear” of being “abandoned” — it’s like she wants her peace and quiet but she’s also afraid of living alone because, her health is not great! What if something happens?! She needs people around to feel secure.

Yes it’s understandable. We can definitely organise a home-visit carer service. It doesn’t matter how much it costs, I’ll pay for it.

I think there are some government… somethings… I’m not sure.

We don’t need government money. I’LL PAY FOR IT.

(Chuckles)…

Yeah? You like these ideas?

I’m… not put off by them… (smiles)…

Then that’s the plans. For reals. Not even fiction.

(Smiles)…

I’ll pay for her to live — wherever she wants to live, really! As long as she won’t encroach upon YOU and YOUR PERSONAL SPACE. FOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH.

(Sigh)… she’s not THAT bad… (lol)…

I know. But whatever accommodations she needs. We’ll organise it for her.

(Sigh)

She doesn’t want to live in a nursing home, does she?

No — it’s her biggest fear to be abandoned by her family and stuck in a nursing home.

Okay. We won’t do that to her. Ever.

EVER?!?!?!

Unless I get cancelled and somebody takes all my money — you know, those kinds of extremes. If I am still in a comfortable financial situation, she shouldn’t have to live in a nursing home.

Okay……… (sigh)…………………….

That’s it then.

Well — I don’t know if we’ve covered absolutely everything but it’s enough for now.

Yeah. Let’s get back to focusing on US. Don’t worry about your mother! Once we’re engaged, once we’re married — she is living a life of luxury as well! I’m gonna SPOIL my own mother-in-law!!!

Really?!?!?!!

LOL… well, whatever you want. If you want me to I will.

She doesn’t need to be spoilt. Just a granny flat and a cleaner and a nurse.

Yes. Okay.

Does she want a new car?

LOL… my Dad will have nothing left to provide for?!?!?!

That’s okay! I’ll buy a new car for Dad as well?!!!

Ohhhh… I don’t know if he would accept it… that’s a whole other…………………………

Okay let’s leave Dad out of this conversation.

Exactly.

Mother-in-law. Granny flat. Cleaner. Home-visit nurses.

And — organic groceries.

Yes.

And — medical bills?

Yes.

REALLY?!?!?!

YES.

It feels like… we’re turning into your charity project…

No — you are my WIFE. And I am your mother’s SON-IN-LAW.

Okay………………

Okay?!?!

I guess so?!?!?!!

(Smiles) ^__^ ❤ ❤ ❤