Virgo Sun Pisces Moon

Okay fine, I’ll explain more about the 5 love languages, in my understanding of them…

🤓 okay! (Ready to take notes 📝)…

I haven’t even read the book. Someone once told me, “u gotta read the book!” — but I’ve never read the book…

That’s okay.

And the dude who started it? There were some tik toks criticising him?

Uhuh… (Shrugs shoulders)…

Something about his church allegedly not being nice to gay people…

👀 okay, we won’t mention him too much in public…

I think it’s like, I love Harry Potter, but I’m also not reacting to JK Rowling’s comments on trans… issues?

Uhuh…

We’re just not going there. At least not publicly.

Okay.

Well, from what I remember the 5 love languages… I think I wrote about this already?

A little bit — you haven’t gone into it that much. You can constantly keep adding to it with more examples. I want examples!

I really like the questions “this” OR “that” — I want more of those discussions!

Sigh… hmm… let me think…

I can’t think of anything right now. I feel like I need a random scenario generator, like I need to write this into a code and just run the program to generate random date scenarios so we can go “This” OR “That” — ?!

👀 sounds like a cool app?

Hmm… sounds like something already invented… 🤔…

Alright, let me keep going…

5 love languages in no particular ranking:

• Acts of Service
• Gift Giving
• Physical Touch
• Undivided Attention
• Words of Affirmation

Isn’t that already your ranking?

It is?

You’re saying “in no particular order” but that’s the order you’ve remembered them — that’s the order you’re currently prioritising.

Is it…?

👀 I think so….

Hmmm…

What is most touching about Acts of Service?

Well, when I think about those MacDonald’s breakfast scenarios. If we’re living together and I’m like, “I feel like MacDonald’s for breakfast” and you actually go to MacDonald’s to get the order and bring it back to the apartment  — that to me, is an act of service.

You don’t need to do it. You could even order it to be delivered these days! But you wanted to put in that effort to get to the MacDonald’s, pick up the order and bring it back… I don’t know? Is it a human reaction? The Man as the Hunter? He’s going out to get breakfast for me? Instead of hunting down a cow you go get the McMuffin from McDonald’s?!?!??!

😅😅😅 lol…… I don’t know about that one… but you’re right, these days, we can just order it to be delivered… what is this romanticisation of physically going out to pick up the order?

I don’t know, maybe it reminds me of my Dad, and his act of service as a Father.

Oh?

Because he would do that for us — when Mum was too tired to cook. He’ll go out and bring the food back.

There ya go. That’s it!

Is it?!

Well, if you tell me these actual examples then I can understand… it’s because your DAD… did that!

Uhuh… I mean?! He could’ve called a Pizza place to get pizza delivered too?! But he never did that? He always chose pick up option?!?!

😅😅😅 I think he saved on delivery fees…

Right… yeah… I guess that’s mostly what it is…

You see it as a good thing, a valiant act of Masculinity, to run out and get the food and bring it back!!!

Lol… maybe… 😅

And your Dad is the type like, “I’ll be back to fix those windows myself” — he’s gonna do it…

Lol… yeah I guess…

Acts of Service…

And he makes money 💰??!! Making money is an ACT OF SERVICE?!?!?!

🤣🤣🤣 lolololol….

(Nodding, almost bowing)… yes my love… making money is an Act of Service… a man’s gotta do it… for his wife, his family… 🙇‍♂️

He doesn’t have to… but in our relationship… you want to…

Uhuh.. 😏💕🙇‍♂️🙇‍♂️🙇‍♂️

Why are u bowing?! U don’t need to bow!!!

I WANT TO.

Why?!!??!??!

Because… I like it. I like feeling humbled…

Sigh… okay? Next one? Gift giving…

🥰❤️ I’m very confident about this one these days!

Lol… yes… you can afford all the gifts…

Uhuh… 😁

I mean… something hand made would be nice too?

👀 see then that brings it back to Acts of Service!

What if I crocheted you a Taylor Swift cardigan? You’ll wear it?!

😍 OF COURSE!

The fact that you knew it’s gotta be Tay Tay themed, and then you attempted to do it WITH YOUR OWN HANDS??!!

R u kidding me?!?!?!

I don’t even care if the yarn costed $1 and the needles were 20 cents from an Op Shop!

I would cherish that Cardigan forever 💕💕💕

🤔🤓❤️🥰 hmmmm!!! 📝… 📝… 📝…

What r u planning?

Nothing 🤓

Lol… WHAT… are u PLANNING?!?!?

… 😏… Nothing… (delirious giggling!!!)

Hmmm… do u even have time to crochet?!

Yes! On a plane!

Oh be careful, I think I had a friend who said her knitting needles scanned as weapons once cos they were metal pointy things…

😅😅😅 lollllll… okay?! I’ll be careful…

It doesn’t have to be a cardigan…

I know… I’m not planning to knit you a cardigan…

Aww… why not?

Do you… actually want a hand knitted or crocheted cardigan?

Only if you genuinely want to make one for me… it’s no biggie if it’s not your thing…

😏 u kno my thing is music. I don’t do much with my hands unless playing an instrument.

What about all my songs?! Are they not GIFTS?!?! 🎁💝💕

Maybe… but it’s also in the “work” category….

Okay. Nevermind about them. Like you said, music is our other love language and in its own separate realm from all this.

Yes…

So… do you want a cardigan or not?

Sigh. Let me explain a bit more.

Okay…

My grandmother knitted me cardigans… no joke. She knitted me a cardigan as a gift one year.

What happened to it?

It should still be in my wardrobe in Taiwan…

Oh.

Fingers crossed my mother didn’t accidentally donate it… but yeah… it’s still that memory… childhood memories…

Yes. A handmade gift holds way more sentimental value and in that sense a hand made gift is PRICELESS — money can’t buy that level of sentimentality…

Okay…

Okay…

🤔… (cogwheels turning…)

📝… 📝… 📝…

Lol… 😘❤️ next is physical touch…

Yes! 😘😘😘❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥

Mmm… it’s pretty self-explanatory with us…

Yes… 😈🔥

Okay then Undivided Attention and Words of Affirmation…

See now I’m confused because in that “8 love expressions” it would seem those were the equivalents at the highest percentages…

Yeah… but that’s when we’re long distance…

I’m not gonna demand your undivided attention when we’re living together if you’re just around…

How so?

Mmm… if you still needed to be on work calls and meetings? If you needed to go to the big house, to your music studio?

I’ll be fine when we’re living together…

In the same location… we don’t need to spend every waking minute literally together…

Right…

But when long distance — you’re nowhere near Australia — even when you’re in other cities in Australia — Australia’s too big! — I want the VIDEO CALLS… when it’s practical enough to schedule them in… I will want that undivided attention because what else do we have?! We can’t give physical touch! We can’t receive it?!?!

Uhuh… (nodding)… 📝…

Why do u need notes for this?!??!

Because... I’m just thinking through some logistics with time zones and everythinggggg………

Oh. Okay…

Mmm…

Words of Affirmation is last. You’d rather a video call than texts?

I’m not sure…

Not sure?

Am I allowed to change my mind?

Am I allowed to say, after a few weeks of priotising video calls, “u kno wat baby? It’s ok we can video call less and text more” — ?

Hmm… 🤔…

I’M THE ONE WHO NEEDS THE VISUAL VIDEO CALLS!!!

Uhuh… 😏

That’s my love language! When we’re long distance, yes!!!

I WANT THE VIDEO CALLS. OVER EVERYTHING ELSE.

Lol… okay… 😏💕

So it doesn’t really matter then, whether undivided attention or words of Affirmation are no. 4 or 5 it’s basically together as a Video Call and we need to prioritise those when we’re long distance…

YES!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ 🤳