What… is it… My Love…?
Well… You seem to be… not really taking the “picture in front of the cross” very seriously…
(Chuckles) No, you know what? Actually I am. Actually I was just thinking — I don’t mind taking that picture with the Christian friends and family. None of the Buddhist friends would be in that picture. Only Christian friends and family. And then they can frame the pictures and put it on their fridge and feel happy. I do want to do that for them. No Buddha in the pictures. Just that cross… well… I might be wearing a Kuan Yin necklace or brooch or something.
You want to wear Kuan Yin on a necklace?
Maybe. I haven’t decided yet but if you want me to pose in front of a cross I’m still going to have something Buddhist on me. Maybe Kuan Yin, yes, either a necklace or a brooch. Most likely necklace.
Do you want to… add some cross earrings?
No?!
Well… what if… what if some of my family members says that’s actually important to them?
(Are you serious….) Can I have some crosses embroidered onto the dress in a subtle way instead?
OH?! You’d rather THAT?!?!?!
Yeah, like, then it’s just geometric lines on a dress. I don’t give a fuck.
(Chuckles)
I don’t want to wear any jewellery that represents Christianity on me. That’s NOT me. And you’re not converting me by marrying me. Your family better know that. I’m never converting. This isn’t one of those “saviour” marriages where you marry me and convert me. I’m never converting.
I’m not Christian — they KNOW I’m not even Christian. But they care. They want “the blessing” in their own belief system…
So will they be satisfied if I have some form of Christian symbols or imagery on the dress?
(Nodding) Maybe… I mean… yeah I guess they would be…
Or not even my dress, maybe on the veil or something…
Keep it on the dress. Please.
Okay??? Anyway, I was going to say — I’m happy with group photos in front of the cross but I don’t see us?! Just us two?! In a photo in front of that cross.
You don’t?
It doesn’t matter to us?! Why would we stand there in a photo?! Isn’t that so disingenuous?!!?
What if… what if… it matters to me…?
YOU’RE ACTUALLY CHRISTIAN?!?!?!!?!?!?!?
No! I’m not… well… maybe… what if? What if I am… just for that day?
You’ll be Christian on our wedding day?
Yes… what if… it does matter to me, just for that day?
Are you being real right now? You’re being sincere, you really feel like you might be Christian just on our wedding day? Instead of Atheist?
(Nodding)
You’ll be a devoted disciple of Jesus for 24 hours in your life. Just on our wedding day.
Yeah… and maybe… if we renew our vows… have another ceremony with Christian friends and family…
Okay… (big sigh)… but this isn’t a trap or anything. You’re not going to marry me and then make me go to Church every Sunday once we’re married?!
(Laughing) No. I promise you. It’s DEFINITELY NOT that.
(Sigh) Well if it’s just for one day… if it’s just on our wedding day… that’s fine…
It is?!
Yes… I’M BUDDHIST — WE’RE SO CHILL. It’s fine!!!
You keep saying “I’m Buddhist, we’re so chill!” and then you add “But I need Kuan Yin as a necklace!!!” I don’t think it’s THAT chill… (Laughing)
(Laughing) Yeah… well… there’s variations of chill….
(Laughing) Okay so we’re still going to have a photo of just us two in front of the cross — that Christian friends and family will also be able to keep and frame. And of course, variations of Christian friends, Christian family group photos that they get to keep.
(Sigh) Yes… Of course I’m happy to do that for them. Wearing my Kuan Yin necklace.
(Smiles) Okay. That’s our compromise. Honestly the Christian friends and family wouldn’t have minded either if you wanted to get married in a Buddhist temple.
Well — I don’t really care about Buddhism like that… it’s just different. I love the Chapel aesthetics. I want to get married at that Chapel.
(Laughing)
What?!?!?! What’s so funny?!?!?!
Nothing… you’re so cute…
Are you horny from a conversation about our Christian friends and family!??!?!!?
NO!!! Actually this time I meant cute like the way normal people use the word cute! You’re really so adorable. I love it. I love you…
Okay… love you, too…
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
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