What does financial abuse mean to you? What are you definitions of that? I know there’s lots of books out there already, in 2025, but what does it mean to you?
It’s when a husband… prints out the credit card bills — highlights, every line that he thinks is ridiculous, or not sensible… and makes comments, starts interrogating her… about every expense. — Sure, if he’s actually in financial problems and she needs to change her habits, that’s a necessary situation. But if he’s not in financial trouble, if he’s “abusing” his “financial power” over her like that — that level of interrogation is abuse. To me, that is abuse, yes.
(Thinking about this)… (Processing)…
How is it… not… emasculating… from your perspective… if a woman… contributes… a little bit… to her own expenses…?
Because she still has some say. She still has some say for their couple’s decisions. She still proves — she has financial autonomy. She has financial earning abilities. Even if the ratio is WAY OFF — even if she’s just got a casual job just for the fun of it, she’s only doing 12 hours a week, she’s earning, what?! $350 AUD a week?! Whatever it is. She’s doing SOMETHING for HERSELF. And she can build on that if she needs to. She “CAN” and “WILL” leave him — if he crosses the line of ABUSE. If she gets a chance to…
(Leaning back) Phwoarrr~~ You really… are… like… traumatised?!?! From MEN?!?!?!
No… I have a good Dad… I have a good brother… but I’ve listened to a lot of women’s stories… I’ve been on that other side of healthcare and I’ve seen women — in situations that you wouldn’t want to fathom. With physical abuse, too. Unfortunately, yes, it’s a reality in society… I can’t ever forget what I’ve seen and heard. I can’t untie that knot in my heart for all women. And I can’t shake them off as warning stories…
Your masculinity could be in the ratio. If you really want to compare. If you want “brag” about this in the locker room — to other guys. On your podcasts, or anything like that.
But give us a ratio.
A woman could contribute 5% of the home’s deposit — the man’s paying for everything else. That’s a ratio. She did her little part. You can brag and compare about your ratios. But don’t try to dominate the entire financial situation. It’s putting her in a corner that she can’t ever back out of… if he turns into her worst enemy, what then? Where is her freedom? Her hope? Where can she go? Who can she turn to? Who will hear her voice when she’s crying out for help?
All he did was suffocate her, like a little bird…
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