Virgo Sun Pisces Moon

What do you think our date nights will look like… when we really become a comfortable, happy couple living together? (For the most part… whatever’s practical with both our calendars)…

Hmmm… I’m not sure… maybe go out to restaurants? Go to jazz bars? That type of thing?

Maybe… but would we get to a point where we also find that kind of boring?

Are you worried about getting bored with me if we don’t have kids?

No… I’m not worried about that… I’m just wondering… what are you picturing?

I’m picturing… actually I’d just like to stay home and make love.

You keep thinking that right now because you’re not getting any and your body is obsessed with getting it — from me — but once you have it — are you sure you’re still going to be feeling the same feelings?

Absolutely!!! Just because I’m a Man doesn’t mean that I don’t know the differences between lust and love. For you — IT’S LOVE.

Okay… well…

You’re very creative, I’m sure you’ll think of lists of things to do for our date nights.

But see? Then it’s always me?! Thinking of “things to do” — ?

Where are you going with this…

(Sigh) It could sometimes feel… unfair…

But I’m the one who’s worked so hard to give us this life —

Yeah. Yeah you’re right… so you don’t need to use your brain for romance…?

No — can you believe what you just said? Like — read that back. Do you really think I “don’t use my brain for romance” — ?!

Writing LOVE SONGS — is still work?! It’s not like — okay, fine. Fine. You’re gonna say “The songs are FOR YOU” — how can it not be romantic…

Yeah… I was about to say that…

I don’t know, maybe sometimes — it’s like the ratio thing — sometimes, it’ll still be nice — if you come up with some date night ideas all on your own. Even if it’s just 1% of the time… even if it’s just a few nights a year. That you came up with it — without me suggesting anything. Yeah. I think it’s the ratio thing — like if you could… try to put in your ratio… then… it feels more like… equality…

You want equality — not only in finances but also date night ideas.

YES… is that asking for too much?

(Deep breaths) No… you never ask for too much. Okay… I’ll think of some things…

Thank you. That makes me feel loved.

It does?

Yes…

But I’m always in love with you… were you not feeling loved just five minutes ago?

No… it just… there’s like this background love — I know you love me, you know I love you — but then there’s this other need. The need for the daily reminder type of love. I don’t know what to call it now…

Maybe it’s a… hmmm… yeah, I know what you mean… but I don’t know what to call it either…

The flame is there… it’s always there… but it’s not getting that gust of WIND to make it like, voooosh!! You know what I mean?! The day to day… the monotony of daily rhythms… it can be… how couples feel like they get stuck in a rut?

What was that?! (Laughing) What “vooooosh!!!” — ?!?!

(Laughing) I don’t know!?!?! I’m trying to describe, like a flame that suddenly grows bigger from the wind?

(Giggling to himself) Okay… I thought you were trying to find a metaphor for something sexual?!

(Laughing) Oh gosh… okay, fine. You know what?

What?

I think the barometer is laughter.

Laughter?

Yes.

I think… when we laugh together, we’re still in love…

You think so?

Yes… at least, that’s how it feels right now…

Laughing together is a good indicator of love…

Yes, and of course — physical passions — but I do expect that to kind of ease up as we age… I don’t know, I just don’t expect to be humping like rabbits into our 70s…

(Raising eyebrows) I’m not sure if I agree…

You’re just saying this NOW cos you’re HORNY…

Can you blame me?! You’ve just spent the past 10, 15 minutes talking about all these random things and all I want to do is kiss you and make love, RIGHT NOW!!!

(Laughing) Okay fine, take me…

(Picks her up… very happily making their way to the bedroom)…

…

Okay, I’ve thought this through… a bit more…

Mmmm?

I think — when we’re older — like, maybe it’s not that much sex… but it’ll still be, hand holding… hugs… kisses… even if it’s the no-tongue kisses… but some forms of physical affection…

(Nodding)

Physical touch, and the expression of it, is such an important love language in our relationship. Even if I’m only writing it — it still matters.

That’s true — I even put it in my songs.

Yes! So… yeah… I guess… it will evolve… in that way… as we get older?

Maybe… maybe it does…

You’re still thinking of getting the outdoor recliners in the shower, aren’t you?

(Giggling) How did you know what I was thinking?!?!?!

(Laughing) Because… we’re telepathic Soul Mates…