Do you want the traditional order of things?
What are you talking about?
Like — in your mind — do you want me to “court” you — like a gentleman? We date for a little while, even via long distance — then we get engaged, then we get married, and only then we can fall pregnant? It means we won’t “lose face” in any culture?
Pfft~~ I don’t care about that.
Really?! Not even like… potential reputation for your cousins?
No. That has nothing to do with politics and political reputations. This is our personal domestic life. It’s not like… the baby is addicted to DRUGS or anything?! You know?! It’s not a big deal if I fall pregnant before technically getting married.
I don’t think anyone — Aunties, Uncles — anyone in my culture right now would care. Given our ages. It’s like “Phew! They finally have the next generation!” It’s like a big relief more than needing to go through traditional steps of engagement and marriage. That is, of course, assumed and expected to come “soon after” the whole pregnancy and birth giving. That is already like the engagement ring. The baby.
(Chuckles)
Yeah. I guess that would be what’s expected. If I fall pregnant naturally any time during this “courtship” (Laughing — it sounds so medieval) — then, yeah, that baby is an engagement ring. It’s happening. It’s all unfolding in due time. It’s expected, yes. Even at our ripe old millennial ages, yes.
(Smiling and nodding)
What?!?!?!
(Chuckles)
What?!?!?!
I don’t know… I think… some people think I should hold off from seeing you in person during the first half of 2025…
Oh yeah? Why is that?
Because… it might happen in an instant… and then… you’ll give birth by the 2nd half of 2025… and I had a lot of other things mapped out already… so… if I just DON’T SEE YOU for the first half of 2025… then at least, a lot of OTHER PEOPLE will have that “peace of mind” that we’re not physically together yet… And then… by 2nd half of 2025…
Basically, it’s like — any time that I see you — I need to pre-empt my team that “YOU COULD FALL PREGNANT” so just pencil in projects 9 months from there…
(AHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAAH…) This is too funny…
It’s only… my… situation!? I am so alone… in this experience?!?!?!
(LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL) Yes darling, just your luck. Always. (Smiling)
I mean… if you want to be careless about it, there’s nothing to fear, either. Right?! You can afford all the resources that are needed at any time.
It’s also about you — and what are you mentally and emotionally ready to face?
I don’t think guys are ever really as ready as they think they are. At least, not the friends that have shared some of their reflections with me and other friends… it’s not something you can really imagine until it happens to you.
You can never be fully “prepared” — but you can be, generally, prepared? Does that make sense?
Yes… I guess that makes sense…
So… don’t blame your team! If you’re feeling like — you need time, this time — maybe not seeing me for the first half of 2025… it’s okay. I understand. I don’t mind, either way, actually… if you see me now or in another 6 months’ time? Something like that? I’ll just keep writing in my blog… that’s my new routine…
You’re okay with that?
Yes. Absolutely.
But I miss you SO. MUCH. It’s really torturing me!!!
Okay?! But I think this is now your own inner-fight?! Nobody else is standing in your way?! Not your team. Not me. Not our parents. It’s… you?! You’re fighting yourself about this timing!
(Arrrghhhhh!!!)
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