“Do our phone logs even store that many calls?! Girl, I would’ve caved after three… (Chuckles)… How can you ignore him like that? You’re so STUBBORN!”
“No. It’s too intense. It scares me…”
It shows signs of an addictive personality. It’s not romantic. I don’t feel loved with 300 incessant missed calls.
I’ve seen the other side of it. My own brother — in his adolescence — red faced, full of anger. Calling, calling, and calling an ex-girlfriend of his… what did he want to say at that moment? It wasn’t anything productive. That’s what I witnessed, as a little sister.
I didn’t even understand the ex until I became the receiver of a 300 missed calls tantrum.
“It feels like… domestic violence… to me…”
Friend. Sighing. “Will you be able to forgive him?”
“Yes. But not right now… I’m still processing…”
…
“He’s not even good looking! What’s the point of a relationship with a guy that’s got all these flaws and he’s not even good looking?!”
“What do you mean?! He’s VERY good looking! Lots of girls like him!!!”
“Not to me. I never liked him for his looks. I liked him for his personality, and then he goes and changes that personality into a monster. I’m not dating a monster. It’s like Jekyll and Hyde. I can’t take it.”
“Why are you so scared of an addictive personality? Some people might feel flattered by it. Like, oh my god he’s so obsessed with me! He’s addicted TO ME!”
Because.
Someone in one of my parents’ sides of the family died from an addictive personality in their 40s. It is a sore spot, it’s very sensitive. Nobody likes to talk about it. We talked about it once… when it happened… upon reflection. And it was decided that alcohol is a very, very, very, very bad substance, let alone anything worse.
…
“How can you tell the difference between addiction and love?”
“You physically can’t. Your brain is addicted like you’re on crack.”
“Well. How do you know if it’s love? Healthy love?”
“I think… healthy love… you can still go do stuff. You can still go to your job, you don’t have to be weighed down. You can still function like a normal person in society. Then it’s healthy love.”
Virgo Sun Pisces Moon 